Today’s young adults were yesterday’s captive audience to the True Love Waits purity movement: exhibit A is the girl typing this post. I’ve gotten used to wearing the ring that serves as a daily reminder of a promise made between a barely coming-of-age teenager and a loving Father who [looking back] moved mountains to keep my heart protected in one of the most important ways. If you were to have asked me on the night this promise was made what my goal was, I would have simply said, “I’m waiting until marriage,” and that would’ve been the end of it. I knew what it meant. I knew why I made that promise.
I made a promise based on what I thought I was supposed to do as a young Christian girl. What I didn’t understand, though, was the “love” aspect of the entire True Love Waits movement. Don’t get me wrong — it brings me to my knees when I think of everything my heavenly Father has done to keep me from giving myself away as society was telling me to do. However, we know that there is always a spiritual implication to every practical thing that we choose to do [or not do], and over the years, I began to see and experience those implications. I finally realized that He was protecting my heart above all things; not keeping tabs on whether or not I’d follow His guidelines. That’s what began shaping my view of true love…the kind of love that chooses to encourage; the kind that chooses to protect. The kind that you wait for.
The phrase, “True Love Waits” means so much more than abstaining from sex during the seasons before marriage. At almost 24, it’s finally hit me that the epitome of “True Love Waits” is choosing to keep your focus on the Lord while you wait for the counterpart that will walk alongside you to build His Kingdom. “True Love Waits” is asking the Lord for patience in every season of loneliness rather than settling for the most convenient relationship in hopes that the void will be filled for a moment. “True Love Waits” is asking the Lord to protect your heart now in order to have a whole heart to give later. And, at the end of the day, it’s still about waiting.
Y’all. We haven’t been raised to function effectively in seasons of waiting. We’ve been taught that waiting for anything will cause us to miss out on life’s best adventures, including love. We’ve been told that these things have to be captured as soon as we [think] we’ve found it, for fear of it slipping away and us forever losing our chance at it. Do you not believe that the Maker and Organizer of all things beautiful can and will bring the lasting love you desire most? Be brave enough to let go of the relationships He calls you to let go of. Be bold enough to guard your heart in seasons of loneliness. And be willing enough to wait for the love that He’s been organizing since day one. True love waits, and it waits with the knowledge and hope of the One who’s ordaining it all. Play the waiting game. It’ll be so worth it.